Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Don't worry!

Mantra for today, a very cliched one:

Don't worry!

Its the biggest enemy of our happiness! You are probably saying, but there are so many problems, how can I not worry? And my answer is, yes, there are, and there will be problems. Those problems need solutions, not worry! Right?

There really is no benefit to worrying. My parents always tell me, we are so worried about you, you are so far away. I ask them why? And they say, it just happens, we can't not worry. Don't you worry about us? And honestly, no, I don't. I don't see the point of it. If something is bothering me, I will tell them, suggest a solution. Thats about all I can do, right? My worry, or their worry, or anyone else's worry is not going to help anything!

I have inherited my mother's worry genes. Her name is "Mani" and she is nicknamed "chintamani". Chinta literally means "worry". And she does it 24/7! So do I!

And I am slowly realizing how it is eating away at my happiness and the happiness of those around me. I constantly stress about this is not working, that is not working, how will we ever do this or that! What will that person think of me, will someone get angry if I do this, or if I don't do that, stress stress stress. And the chain of thoughts just does not end! I spend so much time thinking of all things that could possibly go wrong, that I forget to enjoy my life at the moment.

So now...I take a deep breath, shake off all that negativity, and I KNOW that I can handle whatever life throws at me only if I don't get scared of it!

And here are the blessings....

Today I am grateful...
  • To have realized a few things that can put a smile on my face, no matter what!
  • To have such great friends...in blogville and otherwise
  • For my ability to write!
  • For the chocolate souffle that I just ate
  • For the simple, helpful and non-judgmental people that work with me!
  • For the husband that I have! I feel so happy to have him in my life!
  • For my home, and all the critters I get to see in my backyard. The squirrels, the birds, the cats, love them all! (as long as they stay in the yard and out of my house, of course!)
  • For my friend who recently got engaged (you know who you are, and I am waiting for pictures!). This one makes me very very happy!


Ankur said...

kabhi kehte ho worry nahi, kabhi kehte ho worry 24/7... confuse kar diya :D

but aapne sahi kaha, worry karne ka koi fayda nahi hai, jabardasti to boil down the blood pressure ka koi fayda nahi hai... so enjoy karo and if there is a problem just give the solution!!!

**chocolate souffle
wow!!! :D
mujhe bhi khana hai :(

and humme bhi naaz hai aap par, apne pyare se blogsville friend par :)


--xh-- said...

worrying dont reduces yesterdays problmes, but drains out todays energy. stop worrying and you will soon find happines. I used to worry but one day my mom gave me a good lesson - she asked me - "will anything change if you just sit and worry? then what is teh use of worrying?" and that was like opening an eye for me. from that day, I stopped worrying about things :-D ( i was doing my 10th std whn she told that to me )
glad that u realised that worrying dosent do anything, but add up worry lines... :)

as the song goes...
"Hakuna Matata! What a wonderful phrase

Hakuna Matata! Ain't no passing craze

It means no worries for the rest of your days

It's our problem-free philosophy

Hakuna Matata!

aneri_masi said...

@ankur, tumhare confusion ka kuch nahi ho sakta ;)

chocolate souffle is all mine, nahi dungi!

@xh, i wish someone had ingrained this in me much earlier. In my family, worrying is considered good, a sign that you care for someone. Doesn't make sense to me now, but thats how it was interpreted as then!

Hakuna Matata is the way to go, indeed :)

Keshi said...

I cant help worrying abt certain things...unfortunately Im a worrier...wish I was a warrior tho :)

but ofcourse I dun worry too much...I hv a knack for feeling good instantly no matter how shitty the situation is. I just like to be happy instead of brooding for too long over things that I cannot change.

Good post!


Anonymous said...

masiji dnt mind...these all tank u blogs seem so same..:-)..but i am happy that u have sumthing to be thankful for...:-)....take care

Anonymous said...


Pri said...

i think i need to follow this mantra of urs as soon as possible!! :(

will u share ur chocolate souffle with me??..it might help!

aneri_masi said...

@keshi, well, I guess I meant, don't brood and dwell over something too much. Which you don't, so you're good :)

@samby, I know, main bhi bore ho gai ;) But I guess its good in a way, this just means I have some constants in my life, which are rock solid and good!

aneri_masi said...

@pri, yes dear, I'll share. Any time :)

Keshi said...

hehe yes I know :)