Smile

I was humming one of my favorite songs yesterday, when I actually paid very close attention to some of its lyrics. I hate it ever since! The song is

तुझ से नाराज़ नही ज़िन्दगी...

I know a lot of us love this song to bits. The reason I hate it now is this line...

मुस्कुराऊँ कभी, तो लगता है...
जैसे होठों पे, क़र्ज़ रखा है...


Rough translation:
Sometimes when I smile
It feels like a debt on my lips

This is simply impossible!

A smile can never be a debt! It is one of the purest forms of expressing joy, of bringing joy, and transforming hearts and minds!

Just smile, and you instantly feel better!
Smile at stranger and you have a new friend!
See a baby smiling and you forget all your own worries

There is nothing new in this post :)

Just wanted to share a smile!

And lots of wonderful quotes about smiles here!
Do click on the link, its wonderful!

Go on...make the first move...

A favorite song of mine is this one from the movie "Thodi See Bewafaai"

हज़ार राहें मुड़ के देखीं , कहीं से कोई सदा न आई

(Rough translation: I turned around a thousand times, but no one beckoning to me...)

It is a very poignant, very soulful song. It is picturised on a married couple, they are very much in love even after years of separation. The song depicts how they are yearning for each other, but are waiting for the other person to take the first step.

He says...

तुम्हें ये जिद्द थी के हम बुलाते,
हमें ये उम्मीद वो पुकारे...

(You wanted me to call you, and I was hoping that you would)

And she says...

है नाम होठों पे अब भी
लेकिन आवाज़ में पड़ गई दरारें...

(I still have your name on my lips, but my voice is hesitant)

The song starts off when they are still young, and ends when they are quite old. What a waste of time and emotion! All that was needed was a phone call, a few heartfelt apologies, and a new (and hopefully better) beginning!

I am sure we all will relate to this situation, where we are desperately missing someone, but are too reluctant to take the first step. It may not just be someone we are romantically involved with, it could be a friend, a parent, a sibling, just about anyone.

We are afraid of how they will react, whether they will accept us back or not. What if they lash out in anger and ask us to go away? What if they insult us? What if they don't feel the same way as we do? What if they simply ignore our existence and walk away yet again?

I would say, more often than not, the other person is also waiting for you. And will offer their own reconciliation once you make that first step. And even if they don't, well, you still have nothing to lose! At least you will know that you tried your best.

So lets begin this new year by letting go of our egos, and making that phone call to the loved ones that we are missing so much. It seems scary, but might turn out to be quite easy after all!

Opinions...

Opinions are ... like you know... you have heard it before... like ... a**h****.
Everyone has one. But seriously, whose do you use? Yours or someone else's? (sorry! couldn't resist it, hehe :)

So look unto yourself for "what to do"!

There will be nay-sayers and there will be yes-men. So who do you believe?

One person looks at you and all you do and says, "you are multi-talented! You are so good at so many things!"
And the very next instant someone looks at you and all you do and says, "You are good for nothing. You cannot do anything right".

Hmm...so who do you believe? Yourself, of course! Who else will know how you feel?
Who else will know whether you have given your 100% to something that you get criticized for, or 10% to something you get praised for!

You and you alone can be the judge! And what is more, you are accountable to yourself first and then anyone else. You have to set your own bar and work towards it. You decide what satisfies you and what does not. After all you are responsible for your own happiness, not someone else! Right?

So...you know....opinions also...use your own!

Be harmless!

I was reading "The Little Book of Letting Go" by Hugh Prather this morning. I had started reading it a while ago, then put it away, and something made me pick it up again this morning.

The book has these "exercises" that Hugh recommends to do for a couple days and then notice the difference in how your day goes.

The exercise I read today made me have a very cheerful day! It said something like this...

"Just for today, I will live a harmless life. I will not hurt anyone, either by thought or by action, including myself"

It was quite profound! There are a lot of lessons in that one line. The most important ones being "not hurting anyone by thought" and "including myself".

Not hurting anyone by action is easy, but controlling thoughts, thinking ONLY good about everyone and everything...this takes practice! And I did it today simply by repeating the above line in my head! It works! I laughed more than I have in a long time. I made others laugh more than I have in a long time! I was happier and more cheerful! I felt that I liked everyone more than I have before, that I cherished them more, enjoyed their company more. All it took was a conscious decision!

And not hurting yourself is also quite a strong message. We all tend to be quite hard on ourselves, criticizing ourselves more than we should. So give yourself and everyone else a break, and be harmless!

Thanks!

To Kanan for this award...

She gave it to this blog... for the positive energy that is being spread all around from each little post.

Thanks Kanan! I am glad you and other visitors like it :)

I need to pass this on to 6 other blogs. Need to think about this a bit.
Will put an update here soon...

What we can learn from nature...

We are landscaping our yard, and I have been spending quite a lot of time in there lately. Got to see a lot of things which I would usually simply ignore. Here's a small "picture story" about what I have learnt!

Look towards the sun...

These flowers always try to find sunlight, and that's what they look at. They have a "one-track mind", so to speak. No matter what happens, look at the "bright, sunshiny side of life"

Hope...

If this little sprig of green can survive with such little to go for it, so can you! All is not lost yet, there always is hope, if there is a will!

Persist! Don't give up even if there are people against you.

This used to be a big shrub. About as tall as me. We had to cut it down to clear out space for some new stuff. Its just about one foot tall now. In just a few days after it was hacked, this survivor sprouted new leaves! Ain't backing down that easily, this one! No matter how many enemies you have, you can always find sustenance if only you look for it.

PS: Do forgive the not-so-inspiring picture. The message is very strong!

Forgive!

I don't have a picture for this lesson, but I do have a story. We have some beautiful, very cheerful gerbera daisies in some pots. They have at least one flower at any time. We water them every other day. Last week, I forgot to water them on their scheduled feeding day. They flowers were droopy and looked quite dead. I watered the plants, and within an hour, the flowers were up and dancing in the breeze again! I had been forgiven my neglect! It held no grudge against me. It didn't get all sarcastic and say why are you here now, leave me alone.


So many simple lessons, ain't it!

Accept it!

Today's mantra...

Accept it!

This applies to SO many different situations in life.

Most of us feel...at some point or the other...if only were different, I could do this, I could do that. There is no end to the "if only"s once we get started down this route.
Well, accept it!
Accept the fact that things are the way they are, not the way you wish they would be!
Accept the present...
Accept WHERE you are, only then you can decide where you can go!
Accept WHAT you have, only then you can decide what you can do with that!
Accept WHO you are, only then you can be who you want to be!
And also accept the past, only then will you be able to move forward! There comes a point where you need to stop questioning...why did this happen to me? It happened, nothing will change it, so accept it, and look ahead.

Heard of the line "if life hands you a lemon, make lemonade"?
I think life hands us more than just lemons, it gives us a lot more that we tend to ignore when we focus on that lemon!
SO...stop living in some pipe dream, wake up and look at what you have, accept it and make it work!

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At some point or the other we feel all alone, feel that no one is there to support us, where is the point in doing all of this anyway.

This is also something we need to accept.

That you ARE indeed all alone.
You are the only ones that can feel the way you feel.
You are the only one truly responsible for your happiness.
You are only one you can truly depend upon at ALL times!

Once you come to terms with this truth, nothing is impossible (well..almost) to achieve.