I stumbled across this blog that I have fallen in love with. It gives pointers on How to Find Your Happy Place. Galen Pearl has a lovely way with words, makes everything so easy to understand. I read her post Awe is Awesome first thing this morning. Loved it! It made me stop and look at the wonderful world we live in. Here are some awesome things I noticed today.
Pomegranates! We have a small pomegranate tree in our yard, and we harvested about 7-8 of them this year. I was trying to separate the juicy, red arils. It was a tough job. They were so juicy, that a little bit extra pressure and I would get splattered in red! So juicy that if one of them fell to the floor, the floor was splattered in red. That's when I had my awe-filled moment! This fruit is amazing! It is packed to the brim with such delicate things. And each one of them is safe inside the hard outer skin, separated into separate sections with soft white membranes. Perfect design! Awesome!
Fruits in general are awesome! I love most of them, and am overdosing on pears these days! Nature is amazing, so many different fruits, each one with a different structure, texture, color and text. Awesome!
The human touch is awesome! One loving hand on your head will make a nasty ache go away, even if temporarily. One loving hug will take away so many worries. So simple, so powerful! So awesome!
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Be Happy in Making Others Happy?
What do you think?
I think not!
This is something my father used to say over and over to us when I was growing up. It got ingrained in me so much, that making someone happy was the ONLY way for me to be happy myself!
Now you can imagine how messed up that makes me! I am not sure of my own likes and dislikes. I go with the flow. I do things for others hoping it will make them happy.
- If it does, I am on a high....for some time. Until that person says thanks and moves on. Then my bubble bursts and I start looking for someone else to make happy.
- If what I did does not make the other person happy, it makes me very very miserable! Possibly making the other person miserable too!
And the vicious cycle continues!
I would revise my father's advise to say:
You are responsible for your own happiness. Only YOU can make yourself happy, only YOU have the power to make yourself sad.
Now if only I knew how to erase what's etched on my mind, and follow my new advise! Sigh!
I think not!
This is something my father used to say over and over to us when I was growing up. It got ingrained in me so much, that making someone happy was the ONLY way for me to be happy myself!
Now you can imagine how messed up that makes me! I am not sure of my own likes and dislikes. I go with the flow. I do things for others hoping it will make them happy.
- If it does, I am on a high....for some time. Until that person says thanks and moves on. Then my bubble bursts and I start looking for someone else to make happy.
- If what I did does not make the other person happy, it makes me very very miserable! Possibly making the other person miserable too!
And the vicious cycle continues!
I would revise my father's advise to say:
You are responsible for your own happiness. Only YOU can make yourself happy, only YOU have the power to make yourself sad.
Now if only I knew how to erase what's etched on my mind, and follow my new advise! Sigh!
Monday, August 2, 2010
Happiness...for everyone!
This is another one from the Secret Scrolls:
When you ask for happiness and a beautiful life, ask not just for you, but for everyone.
...Can you imagine what would happen if over six billion people asked for these things for you?
When you ask for happiness and a beautiful life, ask not just for you, but for everyone.
When you ask for something better, ask not just for you, but for everyone.
By all means ask for abundance and health for you, but also ask for it to be given to everyone.
...Can you imagine what would happen if over six billion people asked for these things for you?
I like it.
It might not actually work, but I like it.
It may be something selfish (6 billion people returning the favor?), but I like it!
Have been thinking a lot about "happiness", hope to do a post soon about all my thoughts.
Monday, March 15, 2010
From the Secret Scrolls...
I have subscribed to getting occassional emails from the "Secret Scrolls". This is related to the book "The Secret".
Mostly, I agree with what they..mostly I don't think too much about it, and accept it, since, well, it makes me feel good at the moment.
The latest one this. And I don't agree with them this time.
"Our natural state of being is joy, and it takes so much energy to think negative thoughts, to speak negative words, and to feel miserable. The easy path is good thoughts, good words, and good deeds.
Mostly, I agree with what they..mostly I don't think too much about it, and accept it, since, well, it makes me feel good at the moment.
The latest one this. And I don't agree with them this time.
"Our natural state of being is joy, and it takes so much energy to think negative thoughts, to speak negative words, and to feel miserable. The easy path is good thoughts, good words, and good deeds.
Take the easy path."
I don't know about this.
First, there is no easy path to anything.
First, there is no easy path to anything.
Next, to some, negativity comes more naturally. That's their "nature", that's who they have become traveling through life. Everyone has a story to tell about how they got there. Once there, its not easy anymore.
Hmm..I don't like this line of thought. Stopping right here.
Monday, October 26, 2009
Balance!
Its a balancing act...life is.
Like walking on a tight rope. It starts when you are born, and you try and balance everything carefully while walking.
Weight is added with every step you take, and more and more co-ordination and determination is needed to stay steady on the rope.
This weight, this baggage, it comes in various forms. Some of it is responsibilities that we need to shoulder as we become more independent, more mature. Some of these responsibilities are like the pole that the tight-rope walker has in his hands. It helps with the balancing act. Some of them, like caring for your self, your family and friends, helping the community are responsibilities that we need to take up. Otherwise we become that extra, unwanted weight in some one else's balancing act.
Others, like unnecessary worries, fears, grudges, ego, all these can, and should be dropped. Ironically, it is these back-breakers that we have more of than the good, grounding weights. We tend to convert our responsibilities into worries, challenges meant to stimulate our minds turn into stress, and somehow things unravel and begin to fall apart.
We need to learn to distinguish between the different situations of life. Necessary challenges should be accepted whole heartedly, discard what is hindering our progress, and keep walking.
We may be surrounded by people who love us, but that walk on the rope is a solitary one. We start off with a safety net provided by our parents, but eventually, it is just one single person on his own. We may have spouses, kids, friends, but maintaining these relations is also a balancing act.
I hope to make good judgments and walk to the finish well balanced if not perfect.
Wish me well, friends!
Like walking on a tight rope. It starts when you are born, and you try and balance everything carefully while walking.
Weight is added with every step you take, and more and more co-ordination and determination is needed to stay steady on the rope.
This weight, this baggage, it comes in various forms. Some of it is responsibilities that we need to shoulder as we become more independent, more mature. Some of these responsibilities are like the pole that the tight-rope walker has in his hands. It helps with the balancing act. Some of them, like caring for your self, your family and friends, helping the community are responsibilities that we need to take up. Otherwise we become that extra, unwanted weight in some one else's balancing act.
Others, like unnecessary worries, fears, grudges, ego, all these can, and should be dropped. Ironically, it is these back-breakers that we have more of than the good, grounding weights. We tend to convert our responsibilities into worries, challenges meant to stimulate our minds turn into stress, and somehow things unravel and begin to fall apart.
We need to learn to distinguish between the different situations of life. Necessary challenges should be accepted whole heartedly, discard what is hindering our progress, and keep walking.
We may be surrounded by people who love us, but that walk on the rope is a solitary one. We start off with a safety net provided by our parents, but eventually, it is just one single person on his own. We may have spouses, kids, friends, but maintaining these relations is also a balancing act.
I hope to make good judgments and walk to the finish well balanced if not perfect.
Wish me well, friends!
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Smile
I was humming one of my favorite songs yesterday, when I actually paid very close attention to some of its lyrics. I hate it ever since! The song is
तुझ से नाराज़ नही ज़िन्दगी...
I know a lot of us love this song to bits. The reason I hate it now is this line...
मुस्कुराऊँ कभी, तो लगता है...
जैसे होठों पे, क़र्ज़ रखा है...
Rough translation:
Sometimes when I smile
It feels like a debt on my lips
This is simply impossible!
A smile can never be a debt! It is one of the purest forms of expressing joy, of bringing joy, and transforming hearts and minds!
Just smile, and you instantly feel better!
Smile at stranger and you have a new friend!
See a baby smiling and you forget all your own worries
There is nothing new in this post :)
Just wanted to share a smile!
And lots of wonderful quotes about smiles here!
Do click on the link, its wonderful!
तुझ से नाराज़ नही ज़िन्दगी...
I know a lot of us love this song to bits. The reason I hate it now is this line...
मुस्कुराऊँ कभी, तो लगता है...
जैसे होठों पे, क़र्ज़ रखा है...
Rough translation:
Sometimes when I smile
It feels like a debt on my lips
This is simply impossible!
A smile can never be a debt! It is one of the purest forms of expressing joy, of bringing joy, and transforming hearts and minds!
Just smile, and you instantly feel better!
Smile at stranger and you have a new friend!
See a baby smiling and you forget all your own worries
There is nothing new in this post :)
Just wanted to share a smile!
And lots of wonderful quotes about smiles here!
Do click on the link, its wonderful!
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Go on...make the first move...
A favorite song of mine is this one from the movie "Thodi See Bewafaai"
हज़ार राहें मुड़ के देखीं , कहीं से कोई सदा न आई
(Rough translation: I turned around a thousand times, but no one beckoning to me...)
It is a very poignant, very soulful song. It is picturised on a married couple, they are very much in love even after years of separation. The song depicts how they are yearning for each other, but are waiting for the other person to take the first step.
He says...
तुम्हें ये जिद्द थी के हम बुलाते,
हमें ये उम्मीद वो पुकारे...
(You wanted me to call you, and I was hoping that you would)
And she says...
है नाम होठों पे अब भी
लेकिन आवाज़ में पड़ गई दरारें...
(I still have your name on my lips, but my voice is hesitant)
The song starts off when they are still young, and ends when they are quite old. What a waste of time and emotion! All that was needed was a phone call, a few heartfelt apologies, and a new (and hopefully better) beginning!
I am sure we all will relate to this situation, where we are desperately missing someone, but are too reluctant to take the first step. It may not just be someone we are romantically involved with, it could be a friend, a parent, a sibling, just about anyone.
We are afraid of how they will react, whether they will accept us back or not. What if they lash out in anger and ask us to go away? What if they insult us? What if they don't feel the same way as we do? What if they simply ignore our existence and walk away yet again?
I would say, more often than not, the other person is also waiting for you. And will offer their own reconciliation once you make that first step. And even if they don't, well, you still have nothing to lose! At least you will know that you tried your best.
So lets begin this new year by letting go of our egos, and making that phone call to the loved ones that we are missing so much. It seems scary, but might turn out to be quite easy after all!
हज़ार राहें मुड़ के देखीं , कहीं से कोई सदा न आई
(Rough translation: I turned around a thousand times, but no one beckoning to me...)
It is a very poignant, very soulful song. It is picturised on a married couple, they are very much in love even after years of separation. The song depicts how they are yearning for each other, but are waiting for the other person to take the first step.
He says...
तुम्हें ये जिद्द थी के हम बुलाते,
हमें ये उम्मीद वो पुकारे...
(You wanted me to call you, and I was hoping that you would)
And she says...
है नाम होठों पे अब भी
लेकिन आवाज़ में पड़ गई दरारें...
(I still have your name on my lips, but my voice is hesitant)
The song starts off when they are still young, and ends when they are quite old. What a waste of time and emotion! All that was needed was a phone call, a few heartfelt apologies, and a new (and hopefully better) beginning!
I am sure we all will relate to this situation, where we are desperately missing someone, but are too reluctant to take the first step. It may not just be someone we are romantically involved with, it could be a friend, a parent, a sibling, just about anyone.
We are afraid of how they will react, whether they will accept us back or not. What if they lash out in anger and ask us to go away? What if they insult us? What if they don't feel the same way as we do? What if they simply ignore our existence and walk away yet again?
I would say, more often than not, the other person is also waiting for you. And will offer their own reconciliation once you make that first step. And even if they don't, well, you still have nothing to lose! At least you will know that you tried your best.
So lets begin this new year by letting go of our egos, and making that phone call to the loved ones that we are missing so much. It seems scary, but might turn out to be quite easy after all!
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